"Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad." -Proverbs 12:25

"Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad." -Proverbs 12:25
Midnight Blue (1963): Jazz guitarist Kenny Burrell featuring Stanley Turrentine on tenor saxophone, Major Holley on double bass, Bill English on drums and Ray Barretto on conga. Midnight Blue is one of Burrell’s best-known works for Blue Note Records. In 2005, NPR included the album in its "Basic Jazz Library", describing it as "one of the great jazzy blues records".

He said, She said...

"You are not designed for everyone to like you - Wise Man Phil

FRAGILE: Sting, Yo Yo Ma, Dominic Miller & Chris Botti

Monday, February 4, 2013

The Super Bowl & the 30 Second SPOT

Advertise: to announce or praise (a product, service, etc.) in some public medium of communication in order to induce people to buy or use it: to advertise a new brand of toothpaste.

Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting....

What do you see?

I'm not a prude. 
I notice good looking women all the time. I said; "notice". Sadly enough there was a time I did more than just notice, but that is a conversation for another day. 
With that being said, the responsibility that mother's have today to raise their young girls to become known for more than just their body is overwhelming. Super bowl ads showed us once again what the mindset is of corporate America, advertising agencies, and many of the "brands" today. They told us in 30 second time slots what they think grabs a male dominated audience's attention: the sexual objectification of women... young women. I'm not here to say that they are wrong in thinking that works. 
They've done their home work. 
Trust me, nobody who chooses to spend $3.8 million for a 30 second spot doesn't know what they're trying to accomplish.

 Sex is a two way street; Men have a responsibility too...
Again, with that being said, Father's really can't hug their daughters enough and share with them how special they truly are, nor can it ever be underestimate the importance of a mother's role of setting a respectable standard of womanhood for their young daughters. There wasn't a time not too long ago that my treatment in the manner of how I viewed women was poor, that my view of them was inappropriate, and that I frequently viewed women as sexual objects.
Again, I'm not a prude, I'm just being honest. 
Do I think American will change their mindset? No I do not. 
The porn industry made over $13 billion last year. That is more than the NFL, NBA, and the MLB combined. The "cat" is out of the bag and I, like usual, don't have all the answers. Chris Rock has said that his main job as a father is to keep his daughter off the "pole"... stripper pole. And though that assessment is funny there is a lot of truth to that statement. And with that I will say the stakes have never been higher for our children in the area of sexuality, safety, and purity than they are now. 
 Go daddy; talk to your kids about sex & sexuality...
All we can really do is talk to our children. 
Aristotle once said: "the family is the first school of human instruction."
I agree. 
Fathers will hopefully share with their sons what is appropriate behavior and thinking when it comes to women. We as men will always notice good looking women, but do we have to have a physical mandate that resides within us that states she is to be conquered and consumed; not appreciated and admired? Mothers would also do well to inform our girls that men are visual creatures and if you wear "that" you will produce in the minds of men that your worth is no more than the curvature of your body and the excess skin you so desire to bare. 
I said it at the beginning, and it bares repeating; I'm not a prude, but some where down the line we have to take a stand not so much with the advertisers or companies in America, but within our own living rooms.
 Did you know she can sing too?
Girls, you are more than your looks and men you are more than your God-given desire in the area of sex. My hope is that I didn't offend anyone, nor come off as a self righteous hypocrite. To me it's pretty simple: I have 5 boys and 1 girl, and the direction that we are going as a society concerning sex and sexuality gives me pause. 
I hope my words lead to a lot of discussions in our homes over the next few weeks (years) and realize that if we are to change any of our children's behavior(s) we have to start with changing their mind and how they think. 
 This is my little princess... I pray that she will always be more beautiful on the inside than what the world sees on the outside. I pray that she learns to love herself more than the desire to be approved by others physically. I love you Reese Olivia... your beautiful. Always have been and always will be! - Dad
sbb 4.2.13
 Daughters  .  John Mayer 

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